Earlier this week, I went to my first Funzing event on how to 'Bulletproof your Emotional Wellbeing' with life coach Harriet Waley-Cohen at the gorgeous Mindspace co-working space in Whitechapel, London.
It was clear that many people in the audience, including myself, have a loud inner-critic and so we explored different emotions and how to value them!
What really resonated with me from the discussion was that emotions are signposts and you should pay attention to them. Different emotions that we feel, for example, anger or guilt can come to fruition when we have violated our own code and core values. Here are my top takeaways from the evening:
Meditation is a great way to check-in with yourself, give you a sense of calm and opportunity to simply observe your thoughts.
I've been on the Will Williams meditation course in London and could not recommend it highly enough! They offer free taster classes if you would like to learn about the benefits of Vedic meditation.
Movement is great for moving emotions through you and also for improving self-esteem
Exercise - no matter how gentle - will enable your body to release chemicals called endorphins which will trigger a positive feeling in your body. If you're not feeling confident right now to hit the gym or because it's just so damn cold (!) simply open up YouTube and do an at-home workout with the likes of Yoga With Adriene - she has tons of different styles and variations.
See where you can create fun out of thin air! It can be as simple as having a laugh whilst driving the kids to school.
When was the last time that you had a really good laugh? I love this quote by Audrey Hepburn:
“I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.” — Audrey Hepburn
Emotions are like weather - they come and go. It's important to let them move through you and not to suppress them.
I think this is where journaling can be really effective! Rather than using your iPhone, treat yourself to a nice old-school writing book and pen, and start writing down your feelings and moods - it could help you identify different patterns or triggers.
If you have a loud inner-critic, try reviewing your competence on a regular basis to improve your self-belief and competence. Try writing down three things each day that you have achieved.
I'm a terror at doubting my competence but to help give me a better perspective on what is going right and what I accomplish, I try and recognise mini-wins as much as possible and by being grateful for little things in life.
Massive thanks to Harriet for such a thought-provoking evening! I discovered some inspiring words of wisdom on Harriet's website [harrietwaleycohen.com] which I was keen to share to end this post...
Let go of overwhelm.
Let go of the feeling that it’s all just too much and you’re never quite good enough.
Move towards the future you want.
Ask for the support you need
Be open to change and anything – literally anything – is possible.